From Both Sides Of The Couch with Dr. Laurie Bruce

Episode 70: Overcontrolled vs Undercontrolled: How to Master Your Emotions

Hey friends! Do you keep blowing up in ways you later regret? Or do you pride yourself on being the calm one, yet quietly feel disconnected and alone? In today’s episode of From Both Sides Of The Couch, we explore how some people are chronically overcontrolled or undercontrolled, coping styles rooted in nervous system temperament and central to DBT and RO DBT.
 
Join me, Dr. Laurie Bruce, as we take a deeper look at Dialectical Behavior Therapy and Radically Open DBT, how early patterns and environment can reveal these temperaments, and the physical and emotional costs of living in undercontrol or overcontrol.
 
Neither style is right nor wrong. Both reflect the nervous system temperament we are born with. And strengthening our mindfulness skills can truly be a game-changer.
 
Know how to master your emotions, whether you’re overcontrolled or undercontrolled, here on the From Both Sides Of The Couch podcast.
 
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Dr. Laurie Bruce is a clinical psychologist and mindfulness coach. She received her Doctorate in Clinical Psychology in 2000. Her expertise is in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), which is a treatment that combines both traditional cognitive and behavioral strategies with Eastern Mindfulness practices. She is also a Certified Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapist and completed a year-long intensive training through the Integrative Psychiatry Institute. She’s passionate about the safe, legal, and ethical use of psychedelic medicines to help address trauma, mood, and anxiety disorders and for personal and spiritual development. 
 
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#DBT #RadicallyOpenDBT #NervousSystemHealth 

Episode 69: The Shame Spiral: How to Stop Negative Self-Talk & Build Self-Compassion

Have you ever felt like you’re too much, too sensitive, too emotional, too flawed, or even too broken? In this eye-opening episode, we explore the spiral of shame and how it can quietly distort the way we see ourselves, the people around us, and the world we move through. Together, we look at why shame takes such a deep hold and how self-compassion can begin to soften its grip.
 
As we walk through how to notice and interrupt negative self-talk, understand how self-criticism can evolve into chronic shame, and learn practical ways to foster self-compassion that supports healing and emotional safety.
 
You are not your shame story. It can be acknowledged, understood, and rewritten. And remember, shame thrives in silence and secrecy, but healing begins when we bring it into the light.
 
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Dr. Laurie Bruce is a clinical psychologist and mindfulness coach. She received her Doctorate in Clinical Psychology in 2000. Her expertise is in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), which is a treatment that combines both traditional cognitive and behavioral strategies with Eastern Mindfulness practices. She is also a Certified Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapist and completed a year-long intensive training through the Integrative Psychiatry Institute. She’s passionate about the safe, legal, and ethical use of psychedelic medicines to help address trauma, mood, and anxiety disorders and for personal and spiritual development. 
 
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#selfcompassion #healingfromshame #emotionalwellbeing 

Episode 68: Why ADHD and Anxiety Go Hand in Hand

Have you ever been in a situation where you try to calm down, but your thoughts just won’t slow down? In this episode of From Both Sides Of The Couch, we’re talking about why ADHD and anxiety often show up together, even though they can seem contradictory.
 
Join me, Dr. Laurie Bruce, as we unpack how the brain regulates, why so many people experience both ADHD and anxiety, and how understanding their connection can reduce shame, increase self-compassion, and support healthier coping.
 
An ADHD brain under stress is more vulnerable to anxiety. Over time, this shapes self-beliefs and keeps the nervous system in a state of hypervigilance. Calm doesn’t come from trying harder, but from responding with compassion.
Learn more about ADHD and anxiety in this week’s episode of From Both Sides Of The Couch. 
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Dr. Laurie Bruce is a clinical psychologist and mindfulness coach. She received her Doctorate in Clinical Psychology in 2000. Her expertise is in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), which is a treatment that combines both traditional cognitive and behavioral strategies with Eastern Mindfulness practices. She is also a Certified Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapist and completed a year-long intensive training through the Integrative Psychiatry Institute. She’s passionate about the safe, legal, and ethical use of psychedelic medicines to help address trauma, mood, and anxiety disorders and for personal and spiritual development. 
 
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#ADHDAwareness #AnxietySupport #NervousSystemRegulation
 
 

Episode 67: When Trust Breaks: Healing Betrayal Trauma from the Inside Out

Have you ever trusted someone deeply, only to have them become the person who hurt you the most?
In this episode of From Both Sides Of The Couch, we’re diving into betrayal trauma — the kind that makes you question your self-worth, your memory, and even your own judgment. We unpack what betrayal trauma really is, why it cuts so deeply, and what healing actually looks like.
 
Join me, Dr. Laurie Bruce, clinical psychologist and mindfulness coach, as we explore the research behind betrayal trauma, how it lives in the nervous system, and why it creates cognitive dissonance and attachment injury. We’ll also talk through common symptoms of betrayal trauma, science-backed ways to rebuild self-trust, and the truth about forgiveness.
 
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Dr. Laurie Bruce is a clinical psychologist and mindfulness coach. She received her Doctorate in Clinical Psychology in 2000. Her expertise is in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), which is a treatment that combines both traditional cognitive and behavioral strategies with Eastern Mindfulness practices. She is also a Certified Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapist and completed a year-long intensive training through the Integrative Psychiatry Institute. She’s passionate about the safe, legal, and ethical use of psychedelic medicines to help address trauma, mood, and anxiety disorders and for personal and spiritual development. 
 
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#BetrayalTrauma #NervousSystemRegulation #TraumaRecovery

Episode 66: Nice vs Kind: How Setting Boundaries Is an Act of Love

Hey friends! Are you a nice person, or are you kind? In today’s episode of From Both Sides Of The Couch, we explore the important difference between the two and how learning to set boundaries can turn people-pleasing into personal power.
 
Join me, Dr. Laurie Bruce, as we talk honestly about why boundaries aren’t selfish or mean. They help regulate our nervous system and create a sense of safety, both for us and for others. When boundaries are unclear or missing, relationships often feel less secure rather than more loving.
 
The paradox is this: not holding boundaries doesn’t make relationships better; it actually makes them harder. Your worth doesn’t come from being needed. It comes from being whole.
 
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Dr. Laurie Bruce is a clinical psychologist and mindfulness coach. She received her Doctorate in Clinical Psychology in 2000. Her expertise is in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), which is a treatment that combines both traditional cognitive and behavioral strategies with Eastern Mindfulness practices. She is also a Certified Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapist and completed a year-long intensive training through the Integrative Psychiatry Institute. She’s passionate about the safe, legal, and ethical use of psychedelic medicines to help address trauma, mood, and anxiety disorders and for personal and spiritual development. 
 
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#EmotionalSafety #NervousSystemRegulation #HealthyRelationships

Episode 65: When Your Child Comes Out: How Parents Can Respond with Love and Support

Are you a parent whose child has shared that they are gay, lesbian, or trans?In today’s episode of From Both Sides Of The Couch, we talk about what it can feel like when a child comes out as LGBTQ and the things that can help or harm your relationship during this moment.
 
Join me, Dr. Laurie Bruce, as I share both clinical insight and my own personal experience as a mom to a trans son. We’ll walk through what LGBTQ means, explore the core elements of the Gender Unicorn, and talk about why moving away from rigid binaries matters. I’ll also share my own Gender Unicorn as part of the conversation.
 
Most importantly, this episode centers on safety. Our children need to know they are safe with us and that they can tell us their truth. Listening without judgment, allowing space for self-reflection, and validating their experience can make all the difference, for them and for us.
 
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Dr. Laurie Bruce is a clinical psychologist and mindfulness coach. She received her Doctorate in Clinical Psychology in 2000. Her expertise is in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), which is a treatment that combines both traditional cognitive and behavioral strategies with Eastern Mindfulness practices. She is also a Certified Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapist and completed a year-long intensive training through the Integrative Psychiatry Institute. She’s passionate about the safe, legal, and ethical use of psychedelic medicines to help address trauma, mood, and anxiety disorders and for personal and spiritual development. 
 
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#ParentingLGBTQ #SupportingTransKids #LGBTQFamilies

Episode 64: Why Reassurance-Seeking Never Works And How to Calm an Anxious Attachment Nervous System

Why does reassurance never seem to last when you have an anxious attachment style?
Hey friends! Join me, Dr. Laurie Bruce, your psychologist and mindfulness coach. In today’s episode, we explore what happens in the brain when attachment wounds get triggered and why reassurance can feel helpful in the moment but fade so quickly.
Anxious attachment is not a character flaw. It’s the brain’s attempt to stay safe and connected. We’ll unpack how reassurance-seeking can turn into a cycle of negative reinforcement, and I’ll share five bottom-up strategies you can use to calm your nervous system and create more lasting regulation.
 
Healing isn’t about needing less reassurance from others. It’s about learning how to build your own internal sense of safety and stability.
 
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Dr. Laurie Bruce is a clinical psychologist and mindfulness coach. She received her Doctorate in Clinical Psychology in 2000. Her expertise is in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), which is a treatment that combines both traditional cognitive and behavioral strategies with Eastern Mindfulness practices. She is also a Certified Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapist and completed a year-long intensive training through the Integrative Psychiatry Institute. She’s passionate about the safe, legal, and ethical use of psychedelic medicines to help address trauma, mood, and anxiety disorders and for personal and spiritual development. 
 
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#AnxiousAttachment #AttachmentHealing #NervousSystemRegulation

Episode 63: Self-Compassion Explained: The Science, Mental Health Benefits & 4 Evidence-Based Tools

Hey friends! What evidence-based skills can help us change how we relate to ourselves when we’re hurting, struggling, or not at our best? In this episode, we’re diving into self-compassion, what the research actually says about it, and why it’s such a powerful foundation for mental health.
 
Join me, Dr. Laurie Bruce, as we walk through the 4 A’s you can start practicing today to strengthen your self-compassion muscle. We’ll also explore why self-compassion can feel so difficult, especially for caregivers, and how it’s different from self-confidence and self-esteem.
 
This isn’t about lowering your standards or letting yourself off the hook. It’s about replacing your inner critic with a wiser, kinder inner leader. Self-compassion supports healing, growth, and healthier relationships, and it begins right where you are.
 
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Dr. Laurie Bruce is a clinical psychologist and mindfulness coach. She received her Doctorate in Clinical Psychology in 2000. Her expertise is in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), which is a treatment that combines both traditional cognitive and behavioral strategies with Eastern Mindfulness practices. She is also a Certified Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapist and completed a year-long intensive training through the Integrative Psychiatry Institute. She’s passionate about the safe, legal, and ethical use of psychedelic medicines to help address trauma, mood, and anxiety disorders and for personal and spiritual development. 
 
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#SelfCompassion #EvidenceBasedTherapy #EmotionalHealing

Episode 62: Burnout Unpacked: Reclaim Your Energy with Boundaries

What is — and isn’t — burnout according to research?
In today’s episode, we explore the clinical definition of burnout, why healthcare professionals are especially vulnerable to it, and the three dimensions of burnout as defined by Dr. Maslach.
Join me, Dr. Laurie Bruce, as we break down how to differentiate burnout from clinical depression, why chronic workplace stress slowly erodes well-being, and the key factors that increase the risk of burnout — along with what you can actually do about it.
Because burnout isn’t a personal failure. It’s a predictable response to prolonged stress, and understanding it clearly is the first step toward meaningful change.
 
Listen to this week’s episode of From Both Sides Of The Couch: Burnout Explained: 3 Signs You’re Burned Out And What to Do.
 
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Dr. Laurie Bruce is a clinical psychologist and mindfulness coach. She received her Doctorate in Clinical Psychology in 2000. Her expertise is in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), which is a treatment that combines both traditional cognitive and behavioral strategies with Eastern Mindfulness practices. She is also a Certified Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapist and completed a year-long intensive training through the Integrative Psychiatry Institute. She’s passionate about the safe, legal, and ethical use of psychedelic medicines to help address trauma, mood, and anxiety disorders and for personal and spiritual development. 
 
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#BurnoutAwareness #HealthcareBurnout #WorkplaceStress
 
 

Episode 61: Fear Explained: Understanding Our Emotions Series

Hey friends! In this episode, we’re diving into the emotion of fear and why it shows up as a response to danger.
 
Join me, Dr. Laurie Bruce, as we explore why emotions are essential to the human experience, how we should put up boundaries as clinicians, and what happens in the body physiologically when fear is activated. We’ll also talk about the truth about panic attacks, why they happen, and how they can become agoraphobic when they go unsupported.
 
Fear isn’t always a bad thing. It’s one of the ways our body protects us and helps us survive. The key is becoming aware of what’s driving the fear and developing the self-awareness to understand whether it’s responding to real danger or something else.
 
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Dr. Laurie Bruce is a clinical psychologist and mindfulness coach. She received her Doctorate in Clinical Psychology in 2000. Her expertise is in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), which is a treatment that combines both traditional cognitive and behavioral strategies with Eastern Mindfulness practices. She is also a Certified Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapist and completed a year-long intensive training through the Integrative Psychiatry Institute. She’s passionate about the safe, legal, and ethical use of psychedelic medicines to help address trauma, mood, and anxiety disorders and for personal and spiritual development. 
 
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#UnderstandingFear #EmotionalAwareness #MindBodyConnection